ok am getting this off my chest, first of all whoever may read this may either agree or disagree and i am certain only a man would disagree. This are my grieviances, Nigerian men always don't want a woman who speaks her mind. if she talks he says she nags too much but when it comes to him he wants to do the talking and always be the man.Then when he has sucessfully dated the woman for years and wasted her time he starts to say he wants a wife material, what he means is a woman who takes his poo and doesnt reply when he talks or probably represents all what his friends will envy, then the so called old girl friend is dumped!!! i get so irritated by this because i meet men that say they are not going to marry thewoman they are with because they a looking for the next best thing, my message to them is, if you don't want a woman who can tlk back or express herself go marry a nun and get over your self.
My second issue is this thing with guys thinking that when a woman sleeps with you soon she is cheap, well, breaking news!!!! u are cheap because if you could have kept your wandering THING to yourself maybe your mouth wont open and insult the lady. another thing is nigerian men can complain that black girls are difficult and go on to date white women, well they do that because the white woman is calm and would probably hang on the fan to have sex with you. no disrespect to white women, i live in England and i do see good ones as well the only issues is their black men keep cheating. talking about cheating, GOSH, i could go on forever, MEN CHEAT!!!! well its not new because they think its a mans world, well as they cheat i always wonder how a man can cope with sinking into diffrent things, my dears i envy you for all the effort of taking in different smells , i hope they don't fall into a sewage tank.
Another thing is with regard to the shape and size of woman they want, Nigerian men want a woman who looks thin on her wedding gown or maybe wants his woman to be from in quote a "good home" well i have got news for you, not everyone who cames from your so called defination of a good home is a good wife and people can pretend but trust nigerian men not to notice, all they want is for everyone to say he bagged a fine woman. you meet a man who loves big women and goes on to have a slim wife and cheats on her with big women, and vice versa, whats the sense in that?
we are in a new world and maybe we woman should define what we want and then u guys would know how it really feels.I never understand why a woman wastes her time praying to mayying some guy who treats her like poo, it amazes me,
Lastly, GUYS GUYS GUYS, I am at the stage in my life where i don't care because men pretend and want you to be something u are not, when u are wild they say u are not wife material, i hate that word so much i want to puke when i hear it, Nigerian marriages are not happy today because people are not with the right people, or maybe you marry someone because your family wants you to marry a particular tribe, sorry for you, because you are wasting your time. think marriage is only about babies, what happened to excitement?, i could go on forever but , i will leave it here, its hard to find a liberated Nigerian man who can handle an Educated woman because all they want are Quiet women who wont talk when they are all crazy. call me a liberated woman, or crazy or frustrated but am done with nigerian men and all their rubbish, GO TO THE VILLAGE AND MARRY if it means so much to you to marry someone who doesnt talk back.