If polygamy was legal, would you participate?[color=#006600][/color]
women are generally stronger to suppress their urges than men. a woman can go her whole life having urges/dreams and not act upon them but for men its a different ball game. The animal/beast inside men mixed with ego/macho/testosterone/hunter attitude will make a man go for it, when the right time/opportunity comes.
if a man dreams about shagging some young hottie then its just a matter of time before he acts upon his desires.
my point is that if the desire is there but the individual doesnt act upon it, then its just that he hasnt had the right "opportunity" to do it,NOT THAT HE DOESNT WANT TO DO IT. Maybe that person has too much to loose or his wife is always with him etc but the day that he is confident enough that he wont get caught/loose everything then he will act upon it.
the reason why we hear about marriages WITHOUT cheating is maybe because some people dont view it as cheating. the prostitution industry is thriving thanks to men who just go and pay some toto then go back home with a big smile and continue living "seemingly" HAPPY MARRIED LIFE. everyone is happy, the wife doesnt know: HAPPY! the husband just banged a young fresh hottie: HAPPY!
not all that glitters is gold and like a wise man said: "what you dont know, cannot hurt you"
sex is on mens mind from their puberty, teenage years and, dont think for a minute that it stops when they get married. as a man, i can say that NO MAN WILL TURN DOWN A Unclad SEXY WOMAN (in the right circumstances!!!!!) , its like a lion not eating the sheep. it can only happen if the lion is belly full and crazy, but even then, the lion would kill the sheep for fun.
or try this little experiment:
put Unclad sexy men in front of a women and watch what happens. 90% of the time, nothing.
put Unclad sexy women in front of a man and watch what happens. 99% of the time, HARD ON!!!! (unless he is impotent)
well i am saying that it is human nature to look at a sexy person and sexually want them (married or not) or do you think that you will be the most sexy women in your mens eyes FOREVER? today, probably yes, but for how long?!
nowadays some married men will look at some pictures/videos online and self-service to get the urge away. they will make friendship online with strangers and "chat" dreaming about banging that chick. its all therapy for NOT going and actually meeting someone, BUT THE DESIRE IS THERE.
These substitues only help in the short time. you can bring whatever changes in your sexual life, be more freaky, use costumes, roleplay or what not but SOMEDAY, your man will want more.
We all get tired of something that was suppose to be perfect. married people think that they dont need to look sexy any longer, dont need to wine and dine their spouse any longer, dont need to sweep that person off their feet. WRONG! if you search deep enough you will find that many long term married couple are still in love but the attraction is long gone.
Thats also why some men do cheat on their spouse with women that dont even come close to their women. its all about getting that "animal" urge out the way. the man that fukcs his maid isnt fukcing her because she is better than his wife, he is doing it because its the toto that was available at the time. that happens when the urge gets to an uncontrollable level. ANY TOTO WILL DO!
Men that supposedly dont cheat are just men that havent been caught YET, men that havent got the right opportunity to cheat YET or just men that just got married and therefore the urge isnt that great YET.
its HUMAN NATURE, if it doesnt happen now, it will happen later BUT IT WILL HAPPEN.
Yes, being married doesn't mean closing ones eyes to other fine women or men, i know that is inevitable but it doesn't mean that all men/women act on those desires no matter how strong they are. there are many marriages without cheating, while there are some with cheating. so i think it depends on the type of individuals involved.
actually this is a great question, many people participate unknowingly anyway.
i was just thinking: since "a great deal" of men do cheat, one way or the other, wouldnt it make life easier for the man and woman to have that in the open and forget the James Bond attitude to get some cooch (or dikc)?
it's a natural instinct to get tired of waking up next to that same mofo. getting tired of shagging the same old boring toto and wanting some fresh squeeze and still love that spouse. Its all sexual and has nothing to do with lack of love for the spouse.
After some few years, the passion is gone, people dont care about their partners needs any longer, no more sexual desire etc etc.
these are all the feelings that a new lover will bring back to life. why should we repress our selves in the man of marriage?! that we like it or not, people will cheat anyway.)
AND TO THOSE OF YOU THAT THINK THAT YOUR SPOUSES DONT CHEAT, YOU ARE DREAMERS. its either that your marriage is very new/you spouse hasnt had the "right" opportunity to cheat/your spouse is very good at getting some or just that you are too dumb to see the light (pls dont get offended)
if married couples were open about it, then the world would be a better place. (you go get some/I go get some and we meet at home later. bye honey!!!!!!)
i think the only problem would be for men to accept that if WE can get totos on the side, then our women should be able to get SIDE DIKC and be done with the wahala.
Unfortunately, thats when the macho bullshit kicks in.
forget one woman -
one of my uncles took a second wife in his late forties. . .he now has two kids by the woman. . .so when he should be retiring from the hassle of raising kids (only one of his kids by his first wife is still in school) , he is starting afresh.
so while he should be relaxing, he is still hustling. there is an old dude in the company with the exact same problem. . .though the multiple family thing is not limited solely to polygamy. . .it can also apply to serial marriage. . .