Almost everybody will love to experience the unconditional feelings of perfect marriage with their spouse that lead to happy home, but the question that pose itself says, Do you work towards it?.
The fact is that there is no cutting corner or secret to a perfect marriage, it is just the matter of maintaining the right principle which is achievable.
There is a famous saying where the perfect marriage can only be found between a deaf and a blind couple, because the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of his wife, while the blind wife cannot see the shortcomings of her husband.
To my own observation being in love with each other is more than what most people could ask for in a relationship, but even love is not enough to sustain a relationship there are other factors to put in place. I want you to understand the fact that the best marriage in the world can run into trouble just because the couple tend to take the simplest things for granted.
People from various countries have married their spouse based on different reason, which can either be to have a family, wealth, to have someone to grow with and security, this all matters but there is a bigger reason. Marriage is when you give so much of yourself and yet you feel whole.
One glaring thing I have seen about some couples in our society is that they don’t exercise patience to understand themselves if they are compatible before getting married which has later put their Marital home in jeopardy.
In brevity, something as special as marriage should be nurtured forever, so what are the principles?
PRAYER: this is just the matter of praying base on your religion for a successful and happy home, because the seed of love is created by the power of God and by doing this it will always renew the feeling and guide the couple not to fall into temptation.
TRUST: trust is one of the important key in relationship, so if the couple wants a long-lasting relationship they must maintain what is known as trust among themselves.
LOVE: build your relationship on true love, because true love will always last longer no matter the circumstances in your relationship.
PATIENCE: We all need patience in coping with most things in life either in relationship or in other aspect of life, patience is very important to let you fully understand and overcome most of our obstacle.
CONTROLLING ANGER: anger is inevitable to human, but the person that is slow to anger has the great understanding.
The only way to cope with your anger is to inculcate the habit of letting go of resentment and practicing forgiveness.
Thomas Fuller observes, "He that cannot forgive others breaks the bridge over which he must pass himself; for every man has need to be forgiven." Without forgiveness, your life becomes an endless cycle of anger, resentment, and retaliation. You practice forgiveness so that you can stop ruminating about the past and put your energy into the present moment. And it will also free you from the poisonous effects of resentment. Then, you can experience peace of mind and bring that inner peacefulness into your marriage. You will never have a peaceful marriage until you are at peace within yourself.
In a nutshell there is still more to perfect marriage that led to happy home than what we have here but by applying this principle you have got above average opportunity of building happy home.
Hope you enjoy this little advice, Thanks to GOD and connect love.
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