I just read a thread about a guy who said he loved his girl but he was unfaithful. I was really surprised when the guys on the thread seemed to think it was ok,in fact,the general view was like 'men cheat,there's no way around it'. I was just really disturbed by this,i mean,staying faithful's hard enough,but if you go into a r/ship with that mental attitude,then your r/ship'll be doomed from the start. Some people were like it's the way men are made,and i couldnt disagree more. God created us and he gave the command for the marriage bed to be without defilement. He wouldnt have given us such a command if He knew we couldnt do it. If we're talking psychologically,then yeah,the male psyche has been engineered towards infidelity. The environment in which we are has made it seem acceptable and that's the view of a lot of men. I just feel that saying that cheating is not only okay but inevitable is an insult to the millions of us guys who are staying faithful. I am in a r/ship,i've been in it for close to two years,we love each other,we're getting married;i have never cheated on her and by the grace of God,i never will. It's not like i'm some kind of superman. It's not like all other women are like cocoa sacks to me,it's not like every other woman doesnt hold any appeal to me,because if i said that i'd be lying to myself. I'm an intensely sexual man,i love women,they love me,so it's extremely hard. It's a struggle. Everyday i fight. I refuse to be controlled by my desires. I refuse to hurt her like that. I refuse to put my r/ship with the woman i love in jeopardy. So to all the impressionable young men who might read this,it's not impossible to remain faithful. Sure it's hard as hell,but when you meet and love someone,when you see your future in her eyes,when you want to start a family with her,when you wanna spend the rest of your life living up to the trust she had in you,when you wanna make her happy,when you love her like that,it wont be that much of a sacrifice.