is cheating d whole penetration thingy or is a simply kiss as bad?
Yes girlfriend you can go ahead and invite not only a bootylicious bombshell but a p-o-r-n freak too for your husband but do us one favour and get a divorce attorney by the side because your wonderful husband may end up preferring the booty of the bombshell to yours. Don't come back to open a thread for us on how you lost your husband just as a woman shed tears in Tyra Bank's show narrating how her husband persuaded her into a t-h-r-e-e-s-o-m-e only for him to end up preferring the third party to her. You go girl!, I mean get your freak on! Where went Miss Elliot?
Get your freak, get your freak, get your freak on!
Whoops, I just noticed that this thread is dated as far back as 2008, will be glad to hear what happened after Miss bombshell was invited?
Pardon me if am wrong, but isn't kissing supposed to be done by two who are having something intimate, else we all can just walk the whole street kissing whosoever come our way. aint it.
Lets be frank to ourselves, we all know "kissing" another man, while you have one at home is cheating and there's no other word to describe it, be it for whatever reason the kissing was done.
does kissing mean ur cheating?, lol
YES oh, because what if u can't help urself?, or stop ur self in time, u go waka d whole 9yards abi? kissing is mouth penetration,
On a serious note, it deoends on the boundaries u and ur partners have around ur relationship, whilst we may be sitting here typing our butts off, saying it is cheating, if ur guy sees cheating only as u having sex with another guy and u get away with kissing, then we are wasting our breath
If he doesn't then u know, he will see it as cheating. so y u asking us?, whether he finds out or not is another topic
I PRAY THAT YOUR HUSBAND (If you are female) or YOUR WIFE ( if u are male)
WILL SERIUOSLY BE KISSING ANY OPPOSITE SEX SHE FEELS FOR. AMEN
if you dont want that to happen you better change your stands b4 my prayers start to work wonders.
Kissing Leads to so many thing, the only thing in front is the thought of doing it.
like i said earlier, its a bad and most definitely a hurtful thing and i do see it as something that calls for a re assesment of the status of the relationship and for the lady to reach into herself and answer a number of questions. e.g what made her go that far with someone else? does she still love her hubby and seriously wants to keep her relationship wth him alive? nonetheless i dont think she has committed ADULTERY with someone else. i believe CHEATING in a married sense is ADULTERY- a voluntary SEXUAL INTRECOURSE between a married person and one who is not his or her spouse.
as for non married , no-sex couples as u pointed out IBDAT , i dont think that makes much of a difference as to the effect on the relationship. its still the same hurtful act. i agree with you that people make rules so as not to escalate or have their relationship torn apart by some silly act of one party. sometimes people find themselves in a situation where they almost loose track of rules they may have set up wth their lovers or allow "horniness" and poor judgement take the better of them for one second ,but quickly realise that they may be making a huge mistake if the go ahead with it and knock themselves back to reality. i sincerely dont see a kiss under such circumstances (or any at all) as equal to CHEATING.
some say sexual thoughts of any kind is the same as cheating. this is equally shocking. if u are watching Indecency then u are CHEATING with all the folks in the movie? if u fantasize about having sex with someone then u have cheated on ur lover? i wonder how many people have cheated on their lovers with beyonce and halle berry. its all the more interesting that u can cheat on ur lover with someone and the person ur cheating with doesnt even know it. LOL.
sexual attraction to someone else doesnt automatically disappear when u are dating someone. people simply try to take control of it by respecting the fact that they are in a relationship and do not want to undermine the importance of what they have with that person. you CHEAT on someone when u have sexual intercourse with someone else but there are a number of silly and silly things u can do which may mar your relationship or call for a re-evauation of the relationship e.g kissing someone else.
It depends on the intention behind the kiss. If it's just an innocent kiss on the cheek - one you could repeat in front of your husband, then of course not! If it's anything you couldn't do in front of your husband/want your husband to do with another lady then yes, it is cheating. But at this stage, worse things could happen so it's still not too late to turn around.
@budx - Okay, it is your personal form of understanding of the word and situation but personally i agree with Adetife - U say kissing another is seriously contemplating cheating - I say that point was crossed from when she was thinking and/or fantasizing about said man, let alone putting herself in a position that it could escalate. Cheating can be in the form of thoughts and kissing, but most people generally don't break-up over kissing but strict rules and conditions are thereby impossed to prevent escalation as well as discomfort/distrust.
I would be interested to know how people that are in committed relationships, but agreed to wait till marriage b4 having sex would deal with their partner kissing someone else.
u are reading me wrong. the question was does kissing mean cheating. and i was answering that specific question which in my opinion means NO. when people say i left my boyfreind cuz he cheated on me they dont mean "cuz he kissed another girl" do they. ofcuz id be upset if my wife told me she kissed another guy for a multitude of reasons prime of which would be that her feelings for me are being questioned by that act and ofcuz the resulting whittling down of trust (cuz who knows who's next ). however i believe cheating really means actually having sex with someone else. some people get very angry to the extent that they feel like killing someone who may have hurt them. does that make them murderers? i guess not.
the act is hurtful and surely raises many issues in the relationship. especially personal issues for the lady who may have kissed another guy. but one thing she didnt do is cheat on her husband.
I seriously agree with Adetife.
Whn you have impure thoughts about someone else other than your partner - is cheating.
But kissing someone else is definately cheating.
Sweetie, you really need to address the issue surounding the reason you had to kiss someone else otherwise thats how trouble starts o.