I have heard this several times and I dont know how true or how false it is
U knw dis thread jusj resurrect my age old puzzlement. If women are constantly bitching and moaning about men cheating, WHY D HELL ARE U PPLE HUSTLIN 2 GET MARRIED? If i had such an issue wit women i wouldnt marry any! Somewhere deep down u knw u just fooling urself. We will marry as many and DO as many babes as we can. If u no like am go jump inside lagoon.
well. . .I will say it is short sighted. calling it cheating is, again, questioning the intent!
the line that separates manslaughter from murder is very thin . . .and it begins with 'intent'.
his intent by sampling the flock is not to hurt the wife at home but rather to be guarded in his decision making so that the addition of the new comer does not disturb greatly whatever harmony was already established in that household. the new bride's ways and mannerisms takes time to uncover. she must be a supplement to the existing members in the household. . .so in the time it takes to fully assess and arrive at decision, yes, it is wise to be discretionary with her identity so far that it is not done with a malicious intent.
the cheater on the other hand is intending to disrupt and cause disharmony. the action is malicious and so is the thought, discordant at best, that went into the initial contact when this act of immorallity took off.
@ negrontns. . . isn't that the general trend of cultural evolution. . . . ? what's the issue here? I don't get it. What is "ordinary" interaction? If i dropped u in the middle of red-neck USA, u being called a "nigger" left right and centre would be "ordinary" interaction. . . isn't it all relative?
@ OP. Yoruba guys all cheat like crazy. YES!! We are all a bunch of good for nothing dogs. Thats why we are the best in bed. If u wanna get poked real good, holla @ Segun, Dayo, Tunde, Ibukun, Femi etc. . .forget about Emeka, Nnamdi and Chibuzor etc. Reinforce the stereotype. Anyone silly enough to subscribe deserves to be misled
oh if you think I use big grammar wait till redsun get in here. lmao!
well. . .talking of developed nations, I cherish their struggle in every way, including sometimes personal sacrifice, to uphold the right to free speech. lately, due to broadspread of liberal ideas into mainstream circles, free speech is slowly being replaced by 'free tongue'.
bias and sensitivity issues, pushed by both civil liberties union and feminine rights advocates, have made it extremely difficult to interact ordinarily without the possibility of being labeled as anti-social or at worst, referred for 'sensitivity training'.
how soon do you think it would be before the society is de-sensitized and what shocks us today as immoral and intolerable in an infidelity case is reversed and accepted as the norm? very soon my dear, in developed nations, polygamy will be as valid a civil right as homosexuality is.
lol. . .of course hell will break loose the moment the wife is told that another wife is joining the household. a man must always handle his business in the most forthright manner possible. we are not perfect but something that significant has no room for error. so he needs to disclose upfront before his first marriage and let the bride know that he will be a practicing polygamist. this way she is prepared and ready to handle the moment of truth when it happens.
but because men have gone through successfful stages of 'sissification' by women that demand their men bake cookies and mop floors . . .nowadays, men are cowered into handling business with tepidation, fearful it will upset madam.
he forgets that madam is a roller coaster of moods. . .everything is upsetting to her. so. . .yes, men need to share that propensity for polygamy before the first wife, not after.
I am an advocate of polygamy and I maintain that its not cheating. there is planning and deliberation going into it. its not a spontaneous action like infidelity is.
you are not wrong. . .he tests his ground during the search. the keyword is 'intent to disclose'.
the polygamous man intends to find additional woman to introduce to the wife/wives at home.
the cheater intends to keep his mishief hidden . . .and possibly replace the wife at home with the woman he is having the affair with.
what on earth have we done to deserve such comment,but u guyz still need to consider the personality of the person involved,i wonder how my GF will feel if she sees this comments.to be honest, there are many yoruba guyz around that will never give a second thought for extra-marital affairs,i think i fall in dat group.
if u guyz have witness some yoruba guyz cheating,that is not enough to justify your assumption dat all yoruba guyz cheat.personally,i prefer not to have any relationship at all than having an illicit affairs that will lead no where.