She's my first date. I've known her for close to six years now, and we have dated for almost 4years (my third year in school). She's now serving. The fact is that i do not really feel that deep, emotional affection for her in my heart. but i really do respect this girl and we've been good friends since. some of her brothers and the sister know about us (she offered to give me the brother's phone no and i said OK, that was how i got to know the brother). on the other hand, she always ask of my mum everytime we speak on phone, and so i decided to give her my mum's no. she has called her once or twice. she's not spent even a weekend in my house ever, but we do spend time together although we decided to stop havin sex for about 5months now. i would've let her know this since, but from the way i treat her (no regular phone calls for fun or to show care and love, but only when it's necessary etc.)she thought of it and she asked me what the problem was. i think we're not compatible and from my observations i don't think we'll make a happy couple.
After several weeks of pretence, I had to let her know exactly what my feelings are before it becomes too late so she could move on with her life. Else i may be raising her hopes (if i've not done so already). The fact is: i've kfully searched my heart and i don't love her. I only like her as a friend. Why i kept the rel for so long was because i thought it'll grow with time and i could 'develop' my likeliness for her. What do you think? Am i being rude or heartless? Have i done the right thing?