how do i tell my gurl that im tired of the relationship and that i want to back out
i rilli wanna thank y'all 4 ur advice and i must be honest, i do luv her and i was always there 4 her, she appreciate me been around her, i listen to her, i met her when i moved down to lagos and we started as friend at first. she sent a note to me thru a friend saying that she has neva seen any guy like methat she has been observing me 4 some4time now and that i look genuine or real, i told her dat we can be friends but I'm just too scared to trust any woman right now let alone to even date her because of what i have heard about Lagos girls , she promised to be good but she is pretty and she is also presentable, the problem i have with her is that men are always asking her out and she always tell me about it, i jst want to breakup with her so that she can live her life, i know it hurts but what else can i do, even if i keep trustin her i feel she will be promiscuous and she can be sleeping around behind my back so i have to avoid it and she ill be going to school soon, i think it is good for me to end the relationship and i will be travelling to the states soon , i just want to break up with her in a mature way so that she can still have that regard 4me4as she use to have, pls advice me on this and tell me what to do if u don't want me to breakup with her, http://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-398180.0.html
Dont call her more than once a day, slowly reduce that to once a week, be patient. . . She'll complain about it, try and sound reassuring, tell her its work or a project thats taking all your time. . . Continue in this vein, u will surely notice things change after 2 weeks or thereabouts.
If she's pretty and commands alot of attention from guys, she'll soon start drifting on her own - which u can use against her. . . Or u can react when she starts over-bugging u about not giving her enough attention, that would be a good moment to tell her that u r tired of her nagging about this issue and u can see that the explanations u have given are clearly not good enough for her and so u want her to just leave u alone!!
Over the next few days, stay away from her, avoid calls, and stay on your own. . . She will see the handwriting on the wall, it may take time but she will finally see it - even if she's blind!