My question is very simple. How do you get over a bad break-up?
I have been a relation therapist for years and have been through break up as well. The best ways to get over such a situation are
[li]Delete her phone number
Dont allow any contact with anything that would remind you of your ex
Make sure u accept the reality
Cry when its necessary
Learn to use your emotions wisely and productively.
Dont Put your ex as a chapter in your life, instead as a reference to disqualify other contacts you may come across with.
[/list] your LIFE!
1-i was at fault.
2-i dont cry. I hurt,yes,but i dont cry.
3-i hate working out,so eating a lot wont solve my prob. I'd rather work a lot.
4-two of my sisters are coming over to drag me 2 a girls day out,there'll be lots of ice-cream and male-bashing.
@Missy B,co'temwven. Lamogun. Vbe'eghe a y'ehe?
Ok i have just have one,And this is what i did.
First of all i made sure i wasnt at fault so i didnt feel guilty and as a result lose myself respect in trying to make me feel better(I mean calling and stuffs) so that was out of the way I have a sisters group so i called them up after 1 week,The one week was for me wallow in self pity listening to all sorts of love and hate songs,and also i eat my way up to 70kg I mean i was fat,anything you do never listen to boys 2 men when u are recovering from a heart break.So after 1 week i called my sisters and we talked about it,though it wasnt easy but they made feel better.And after 2weeks i started smiling again.
So basically this is my point.
1 Make sure you are not at fault.
2 Wallow in self pity for a week,I mean take the blame and all that.Cry if you have to.
3 Eat alot,it wil be fun loosing the weight.
4 listen to songs especially soft songs,I recommend this ones.(beyonce, Me myself and I,bug a boo,Indepent woman. and some others.)
5 Talk to some1 when you have healed abit.
6 Forgive him but never forget,You do this so that you dont have anymore hate and it is way of opening for better things.
I'm not sure whether it's final,i want to believe it's not,but i dont want to give myself false hope. As for numbing myself to the pain,work does that,when i'm at work i cant think of anything other than work,but i cant work 24 hrs a day. The question is,what do i do in the interim? And i dont think a rebound r/shp wld be a good idea.