Flirting is considered a sin by some people while the rest of them argue that it is true. So, how are we actually supposed to think of it according to the Bible? The answer is right here.
Flirting is often addressed as activity singles do all the time. They believe that flirting is not a sin, and thus it cannot hurt anyone. Others agree with this and add that flirting is not a sin unless you flirt with a married person. However, there are people that believe that flirting is always a bad idea no matter when and whom you are flirting with.
The Bible often sets boundaries for Christians in controversial issues like this. However, if you must know, there is no direct statement about flirting in the Scriptures. Yet, it does not mean that we cannot know the answer. There are tons of other verses that make it clear for us whether flirting is viewed as a sin in the eyes of God or He is okay with it.
What is flirting?
First of all, let’s define what flirting really is. As it is defined by Wikipedia, it is “a social and sometimes sexual activity involving verbal or written communication as well as body language by one person to another, either to suggest interest in a deeper relationship with the other person or if done playfully, for amusement.”
The only reason why people choose to flirt is that they want their friend to know that they are open for deeper and more meaningful relationship than what they have at the moment. Therefore, right here you can find a clear answer that it is not appropriate to flirt while married as it will be a sin.
Flirting with marrieds
Either you or the person who started all the flirting is playfully admitting that there is a possibility this relationship can go further. Bu the Bible commands us to stay faithful to our husbands and wives under all circumstances. Being faithful not only means not actually sleeping with someone but also staying clean in your thoughts and your heart. In other words, when you flirt with a married person, you are betraying your spouse emotionally.
Here is what the Bible says about marital fidelity.
“Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.” (Hebrew 13:4)
“And I will betroth you to me forever. I will betroth you to me in righteousness and justice, in steadfast love and mercy. I will betroth you to me in faithfulness. And you shall know the Lord.” (Hosea 2:19-20)
So, staying committed is one of the biggest values that God expects from Hs children in marriage. Being unfaithful even emotionally or in your thoughts equals adultery condemned by God. Here is what Jesus says about it: “But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart. And if thy right eye offends thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: for it is profitable for thee that one of thy members should perish, and not that thy whole body should be cast into hell.” (Matthew 5:28,29)
So, no matter whether you are tempted by the act of flirting or not, be careful because you might be pushing the other person to sin in his/her heart.
Flirting among singles
The last verse we mentioned above is still applicable for the single too. If there is little possibility that such behavior makes you look at a person with lust, step away. Do not get involved and do not be tempted by such thoughts, as they can make you suffer.
However, what if your flirting has no sexual intentions, are you allowed to flirt then? This still calls for a clear Bible perspective. What is the desire you trying to fulfill with your flirting?
I often get a feeling that people that flirt are seeking attention. They are not just flirting with one person, but with all of those around them and wait for a mutual interest to be shown. However, this only reveals that a heart of a person is selfish and corrupt beyond measures. God was saying that His love is enough for us. SO, why trying to attract people of the opposite sex by playing with their feelings and pretending to be someone you are not just to make someone like you and follow you? If you can say that deeply in your heart you are only seeking to be popular, loved by everyone and famous, then that is not the source of love and recognition that will fulfill the deep desire of your heart. Ask God to show you His love.
If you want to make a person you like to know about your special attitude, just be honest. Don’t avoid this person, yet do not play with feelings. Be yourself and do not seek attention by all means.
Flirting is not the best way to touch someone’s heart, as it intends to touch one’s feeling while you should actually go for one’s heart and thoughts. Relationships is a big deal, and emotions are not everything you need to make a decision to build the deeper relationship. So, watch out and be careful when making your moves.
To sum it up, flirting is not the perfect way to start relationships. It has tons of pitfalls and can root in evil, selfish motives. Therefore, it is better for you not to be a temptation for anyone and express your interest in a person of the opposite sex honestly without the need to play.
Is flirting a sin? It might be depending on your motives which are only for you and God to see and work with.