i think it is good because the man may not be financially okay to bear the whole expenses.
Its not cumpolsury to pay it
thats the point
its just the whole ceremony thats fun!
the woman has no gain in the bride price
shes not gna spend it!
some bride price doesnt even include money
just some yam and palm oil
its the ceremony that comes with it that i love!
some people are full of shizz
but thats for anoda day!
If that's what the couple decide, then yes, she can assist her man with the bride price. I see no reason why we should always adhere so strongly to what we call tradition, in all cases. I also feel our ladies have "selective preference" when it comes to tradition, using it only when it suits them to do so.
My parents were married for almost 30 years, and no bride-price was involved, bride price does not guarantee a stable, blissful marriage, the people in the marriage do.
it's not good for a woman to pay her bride price, if the guy cannot afford it she should ask her family to waive it but she shouldn't give the guy the money. i don't like this bride price thing, it's like selling your child. thankfully we don't have 'elders' in my family, everyone minds their nuclear family's business; so my parents would be the ones to decide.
Truth be told sugarpoo, don't be disappointed. I personally enjoy haing a laugh at the holes in people's logics when I can, just for kicks if I have nothing better to do. I honestly will pay bride price if I have to, no problem. If there is such a thing as an archetypal, authentic African man who has no quandaries following customs/traditions with a real African woman that understands her values and tradition, I am it. I'm with follypimpi in that I only have a problem when women who are all feministic and all of a sudden remember "tradition" when it comes to bride price and other money issues.
H202, you and chic2pimp dey dissapoint me ooh. H202 na you especially dissapoint me, I believe you are Yoruba, paying brideprice is part of our tradition. With the way people are embracing western values, if we lose the little things that differenciates us from other countries, then I believe we have lost an inherent part of ourselves. I am definitely not a commodity, but whoever I marry must follow tradition and pay my bride price. Money does not have to be exchanged, tubers of yam, plastic bowl, palm oil and whatever else tradition dictates is enough for me.
It's a way of showing the groom values the bride.
They will set a certain price, make him prostrate(Yoruba Tradition) and go through a lot of "military drill" before handing the bride over to him.
I dunno how that is expected to stop the divorce rate/infidelity in marriage but they believe in it anywayz.