they dated for 10 years, the first and the last guy she dated in her lifetime, they were so much in love went to same school, served together in Lagos, got good banking jobs after service.
when it was time for them to get married, her parents refused their igbo daughter from marrying the bini boy. she stubbornly went ahead with the marriage by getting pregnant for the boy.
they got married, had a baby girl and then he lost his banking job.
the music changed, he started keeping late nights, became a drunk, womanizes, spends the night outside, refuses to go for the job interviews by his wife's connections, brings his friends to sleep with prostitutes in their matrimonial home, started stealing from her, and the worst turned her into a punching bag with different types of abuse, cuts her with blade, attempted strangling her with a pillow on their bed, beats the wife 's mum that came for omugo, locks her out of the apartment she pays for and tells her to go and bring her people. threatens to take their child away from her, and after everything , comes back begging with a cheap gift, and then she accepts the apology, refuses to heed her peoples advice to divorce him and then goes back to him ''cos of their child'' as she always says. and then it happens again and again after many words of ''i promise it wont happen again''
now we think shes in a kind of spell. we think that one day she might die in that house. we are scared, we don't know how to go about the issue again.
now he doesn't want to see any of us around her, wants to cut her off entirely from the people that loves her so that they wont know when he abuses and kills her. married women in this forum, please is she making the right decision to stick with the marriage or is she under a spell