I learned so much from your posts.
I was wondering what can you get from this . .
I am young, 25, and graduate, and working. and Im involved with a older guy that I met online. We have been cool friends for several months, and he had hinted many times that he wanted more but I always told him no due to I I dont like long-distance relationships, and he lives in Nigeria while I live in New York. The Guy has a business over there and he does fairly well, and never once asked me for anything, but I never want for anything so I dont ask him for anything.
He recently asked to be serious with me because he is looking to marry soon. I finally gave him, but he is nothing I expected!
He barely calls, and even though he comes online, he doesnt email me unless I mail him.
I dont know much about his background and his people because we dont talk that much, he says hes always busy, and when we talk hes always going to bed, when I call him, ifs its at night he rarely picks, afternoon I work so i cant call him as much as I want to.
He once asked for my sisters and friends number incase he couldnt reach me, but I couldnt give it to him, because I have to make sure he is something I would introduce to my family before I introduce my sisters to him.
They are very cynical towards Nigerian men.
But two weeks he traveled to his aunts house in france and not one family member did I speak to!
I can count on one hand how many times we talked, dont even mention emails!
I told him I feel like he doesnt care, and he insists that no one cares for me more than him, but he will show it better if we meet.
How can I want to meet him, when I feel like i barely know him? I told him that I would rather be friends, because I wont have as much expectation, but as a relationship, its lonely and a bit loveless.
We argue about it everyday, and he say he will change but tommorow the same thing.
I am more of a romantic person. I love attention, and adoration. No Im not being prude, its just the way I am, and I realize that some people are different. . I don’t really like telling people what I like in a relationship because it tends for the other person to change their ways in order to please me, when in fact that it is not their typical nature. and then problems arises when the person begins being themselves again and the other person is left unsatisfied again. I dont think I'm asking too much because I have dated other people with busy careers
How can I help him know what I want, or am Im being paranoid?