this is a true life experience. my female friend was faced with making a decision as to whom to choose between two male suitors. she was actually in a relationship with one of them for about two years before going for her youth service, where she ended up meeting the other. the one whom she was dating at that time proposed to her on born again grounds i.e. that God spoke to him that he was the husband. she then agreed to start the relationship being herself chronic born again at that time, even thou she had no form of attraction for the guy. she agreed all the same with the conviction in her heart that God's ways are different from the ways of humans, hence using that to justify God's sending her someone contrary to her dream man. but when she went for her nysc, she actually saw (the second suitor) a born again xtian brother that she was attracted to, but ended up turning down his marriage proposal because she felt she was pleasing God already by accepting the first one that came to her as her husband. she was also afraid to own up to her feelings o this new brother. she was equally scared of hurting the first brother by telling him the truth of still haven't been able to grow any romantic feeling for him for the two years they had dated. now she is been married to the first brother for almost 6 years and has just realized her folly, that in the issue of marriage, there is nothing like 'God says'. having lived with her husband for this long, she is seen enough to confirm that she's been deceived into a relationship, hence marriage. the guilt is so strong on her that she wants your advise on whether to tell the other brother(thou he is married now)what actually transpired and the reasons why she refused his marriage proposal then. Don't forget he is the other brother she truly cared about. she entered marriage with the first thinking that love would grow. this love has refused to grow and she really detests this brother now for taking advantage of her. please help my friend to know if there is really anything like 'God says' and whether she should look for her true love's address and ask for his forgiveness. And could God have actually told the first brother who is now the husband that 'that is your wife' is it good for brothers to say 'God told me', instead of just plainly an honestly making their feelings known without the involvement of God's name?