I have read a lot on NL and felt its a place to to get a little help. i am 26 female doctor currently in the US on a graduate program. Before comming to the States , I had boyfriend who incidently wanted to marry me before leaving , but because i was bent on furthering my career, i had to go. Although he is nice, good looking , had a good job in the bank, he is older than me by 15yrs.
Before that guy , I had a boyfriend in the university that was in medical school with me, we broke up but still kept in touch even after he left for the states for the same program which i am now. Though not in the same city. some where northeast USA. He loves me ( But i dont think he is the way i do for him), and had done so much for me too, like helping with admission process and all the info needed to come in.
Then, here comes the third guy whom i never in my wildest dream will ever meet. He is nice, good looking and very caring. infact he can go extra lenght to do anything for me. This guy in question is married and currrently seperating from his wife for reasons thats medically related on the wife not able to concieve. The pressure has been on him by his parents, that i never believed him until one day he got a call from home while having dinner in a resturant. He was so terified that for once i knew the situation was getting serious.
Let me say that my boyfriend in North east has finally finished the program and has move down to metro Atlanta and decided to move in with me instead of staying with his relation. The situation was such that i couldnt say no to his moving in because of the relationship i have with him. But considering that the guy i met here is thinking of settling down and have what i actually needed, I am in a confused state. To prove to me how serious he was he called my snr sister about it and want me to give a go ahead to conclude things back home.
I am loosing him cos he cant stand the fact that i have a man at home with me. I do love and care for him but my northeasterner is on me too. I dont know what to do. He is getting tired of waiting and dont want to hurt him either. he has not done any wrong to me and the guy i have at home dont wanna see it happen either.
What do i do?. I want to get married , settle, file for my papers and live a good life with someone that will love me unconditionally. I doubt if after knowing that i am still seeing the third guy, he will marry me. i know this because he is already making me scared, threat, almost beating me few weeks ago. If he gets on his feet, will he dump me?