I'm new here, but I had something I wanted to get off my chest anyhow.
I am 24 year old male and am currently attending a very large university in Canada. I've been single for quite a long time (four years sincw my last serious relationship and almost two since my last date!), and it is now frustrating me to no end. I'm not the kind of person who really enjoys being alone (although if that's you, that's fine), but for me, I absolutely hate it. I also realize that I am by no means "old" or over-the-hill yet, but I still must admit that I am quite lonely and not at all satisfied with my love life (or lackthereof, rather). So, obviously, I want to find a decent girlfriend.
Anyway, the problem is that, for the life of me, I just cannot get a date! And the thing is, I don't fully understand why either! I'll admit I'm not all that experienced with the fairer sex, but I am at a complete loss as to why I cannot meet anyone at such a large school. It just doesn't make any sense to me.
I've theorized that maybe it is because of my looks. Although not an easy thing for me to accept, I have considered the notion that I am not as attractive as I initially thought I was (I happen to be a rather tall and skinny guy, unfortunately). So I'm under the large impression that girls tend to avoid me due to my appearance. I don't honestly know what else it could be. I am a somewhat shy and reserved person when it comes to dealing with an attractive member of the opposite sex, so that may also play a factor(?). But considering the complete lack of interest I receive from any and all girls, I presume it's definitely something wrong with my appearance.
I am also aware that some of the more old-fashioned and traditionally-minded females will say that as a male I have a "duty" to be the one to make the first move; by initiating conversation, interest, advances, and the like. But I just have a hard time swallowing that. I mean, is it that inconceivable that at an enormously large school with thousands upon thousands of women my own age that there is not one who is extraverted and forward enough to take the first step? (I was always under the impression that women are usually the ones to take the first step, either via body language, gestures, conversation, and so on.) Moreover, it is extremely difficult to be bold when you're naturally shy, and even worse, you feel badly about your own appearance.
In the past, I never used to lack confidence, but as of late, I admit that it certainly has been a bit lacking, to say the least. I know women appreciate confidence in a guy. Recently, however, now that I'm seeing myself in a much more unattractive light than I previously had, my self-confidence is pretty much shot down the drain. (Wouldn't almost two years without a single date do that to someone?) And don't think I haven't tried to get a date either. On more than one occasion, I have asked out girls and been given a super-polite excuse for not being able to further our conversation. It's quite painful, I admit. Like most people, I don't handle rejection very well from the opposite sex.
So now, in light of all this, what do you guys think? What are some other reasons why girls tend to avoid me like the plague? Any tips or advice on how to raise my self-confidence or on getting a date? I'm just trying to figure this out and perhaps someone else can help shed some light on this problem.
Any and all opinions are welcome. Thanks.