Why do people take oaths in relationships?
True. But some poeple go to the extent of sucking each other's blood.
I know some peeps are going to shake their heads now but I'll describe exactly what happened for the benefit of those who care to know.
This girl had a blood oath when she was 16 cos she was leaving for yankee (she initiated it). She came here and all was cool - she called the guy at home regularly, shagged guys here once in a while no problem. But the minute she started having feelings for a particular guy (actually started thinking about marriage and had called the guy in naija that she'd met someone else), blood starts flowing when the shagging starts, and I mean loads of blood. she went to the doctors and they found nothing. then it started happening everytime they were intimate and the flow would stop the very minute they stopped. the frustrated girl deliberately went to sleep with some unknown guys and there was no flow (and pls this aint about the size!).
this went on for like 3 months. She was dragged to a female pastor by a freind she confided in - the pastor started crying when she heard the story. she told the girl she'd destroyed her own life with a simple prank called a convenant. anyway, she prayed for her and told her to stop shagging of course.
I told this girl to confide in her mom (single child, lived with her mom in yankee, dad in naija), she called me and left the line active as she told her born again mama - the mom started screaming. I couldnt stand it anymore, i got off the phone, drove over and saw both mother and daughter lying on the floor crying. tried to calm down the mom and said the girl had gone for a deliverance in church - the mama no gree o. she said she wasnt ready to lose her only child (xtianity or not), and that the girl had to marry the guy she had a convenant with even though noone in the family knows or really approves of the guy.
Like I said earlier, the girl initiated the convenant move so it wasnt like the guy was being selfish or anything like it. The poor boy actually thought nothing of the convenant and was just living his life.
The guy is in yankee now and they are married.
Whether the convenant caused the blood flow or not, nobody cares or wants to find out. It is not worth it.
the disadvantage is more than the advantage. making oath is like gluing two object together either they match or not, now when you now see that they are not match then you will want to seperate then and which will affect the two objects.
no matter how inlove am in witha lady, she can never commit me under oath. infact i do tell them that anything can happen cuz i go straight to point when am talking to ladies. i dont tell wat i cant do, i will tell you franckly that this is wat wanna if you please with it stay and if you dont live.
guy no let any girl convince you to make oath cuz its dangerous
it really is a silly thing to do.people take oath beacause of fear of distrust that might crop up in the course of the relationship.when pple are really in love,they go crazy about eachother and the trhough of gettin to loose a party to another person brings insecurity and thus they believe takin a oath will solve that angle as the bond is no longer ordinary an the moment either partner wanna mess up,the thot of the cause of the oath will hold them.this is really unwise cos as people fall in l,ove,they fall out of it too.
@sleekdoc. True talk. I concuR. @Tonye-t , i can understand your plite and eghoe, bur never mind such post, if u dont find interest on this sort of thread, just kinda by-pass such. Most of em' are new on here and would just go straight to posting topics withou prior review on past posts. Its jst a question though**
I took an oath with my ex- girlfriend a few years back, it was pretty much the same as described above, she was travelling we pierced the fingers, only we didnt suck, we jus rubbed together. At the time i just cldnt stand the thought of her been with another guy, almost drove me mad (was very childish back then ), but hey you guys are really scaring me o, cos i got over her quickly and broke the whole thing off, what can i do about this?
Pls Kokoye tell us what happened to the girl. I know nothing can happen to me anyway cos i prayed about it and i have faith in Jesus.
Pls let people post watever topics they like o, there will always be some people that can identify with it, even if it makes no sense to you!
Pure stupidity, ignorance and selfishness as some people have mentioned.
I know a girl (16 at the time) who had a blood convenant with her boyfriend cos she was moving to the United States from naija - she told me they both sucked each other's blood after piercing their skins. What seemed like innocent fun way back them began to haunt the lady - she was 21 when she started going thru the pains. I dont want to go into details because it'll sound too hard to believe for some on this thread - but I witnessed it with my own eyes.
Anyway, this girl went for deliverance then went to Nigeria to break up with the guy . . but her mama no gree o. The mom said she had to marry the guy since they had a blood convenant (I guess the mom wasnt ready to deal with the loss of her daughter). Thank God these people are happily married now i hope
So please do not do it to make the other person happy. If your love cannot sustain the trust then you got no business being together.
Hey, oath taking is a serious issue. It is not physical and there are severe penalties for breaking oaths. Don't take oaths, please. Many lives have been ruined due to people taking oaths in Relationships. If the love a man and a woman have for each other is true and strong, they don't need to take oaths. True love stands the test of time and trials cannot overcome genuine love. The problem with relationships today is that love has been watered down due to materialism.
If you truly love a person, you will not put him or her in chains. You will want him or her to be free. If the person leaves you for another man or woman, that person is not meant for you. Let the person go. If you force the person to stay with oaths, you will regret your decision later on. Though we get hurt and jilted in relationships, we always get the person that is meant for us if we learn from our past mistakes. Cheers.